Veronika Amaya

I’m a Relationship Coach focused on on healing generational trauma & creating harmony between the divine masculine and feminine.

This is my story …

How I transformed loneliness & disconnection into THIS ...

12 years ago I felt miserable.

Utterly, utterly miserable.

I was 21, had just started studying Social Work and I felt alone and broken.

I found it super difficult to make friends at university, the relationship with my parents was rocky and I was drifting from one unhappy romantic relationship to the next, never finding the safety and connection I was craving for.

I remember a period of time where I cried myself to sleep every day for weeks ...

In these years I went to therapists from time to time but they all assured me that everything was fine with me and that I didn't have a serious mental illness.

But why was I feeling so terrible then?

I had no idea how to create healthy relationships …

To find the answers life took me on a crazy journey with many ups and downs and finally I realised: I was suffering because I had absolutely no idea how to create healthy relationships with people.

For this you need to understand that we are social creatures and that we are biologically wired to be connected, to essentially live in a group setting with loving and supportive people.

However, growing up I did not learn how to be with people in a way that made it possible for me to create such deeper relationships - instead all I learnt was how to SURVIVE in a group dynamic created by dysfunctional adults.

Over the next years I painstakingly learned relationship skills through a lot of trial and error - I learned about boundaries, emotional self-regulation, masculine & feminine dynamics and creating win-win situations in groups.

And the result of this deep path of relationship (re)learning?

💗 Now, 12 years later, I'm 33 years old and happily married to my partner of 7 years (Matt, the best man in the world!)

💗 I was able to repair the relationship with my parents in such a beautiful way that they now go on 3 week holidays with my husband and I and we'll move into the same house in June 2024.

💗 I have a circle of friends around me that know me deeply, that are loyal and who I would trust with the welfare of my (future) children.

Training & Personal Life

As I was beginning to heal I knew I wanted to share the amazing discoveries I had made, so that others could also benefit from this (secret) knowledge! So I did my coaching training in 2019 and then added on with conscious relating self study and trauma healing modalities. Those were my foundational courses:

⭐ Certified Coach by Pure Coaching Academy, UK - 2019

⭐ Completion Process Practitioner Training by Teal Swan, United States - 2019

I also use my highly developed intuition in my work. I can “see” emotions and feel when there is yet a deeper truth to be discovered (very helpful because we are soooo good at lying to ourselves ;).

In my personal life I love dancing, the ocean & travelling. It’s only fitting that I met my husband Matt on a backpacking trip in Mumbai, India in 2017 and I’m so happy to have him as my partner-in-crime, best friend and soul mate always by my side (if we are snorkelling in tropical Costa Rica or ice-bathing in wintery England) 💗

What My Clients Say:

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My parents, my husband and I on a beautiful hike in the German Alps last year.

Healthy relationships are in our nature, we just need to learn the right skills …

I'm not special.

I'm not lucky.

Instead I realised that creating healthy relationships is a SKILL that all of us can learn.

Why?

Because we are a social species, we are meant to live in groups and so nature has given us the ability to live harmoniously in tribes and get all our social needs met.

But in order to achieve this we need to complete our emotional development that was stunted in childhood and learn the relationship skills that society failed to teach us.

So if you are someone that is suffering because you feel lonely and disconnected I want you to know that I get it - I've totally been there!

I know that you are longing for deeper connection …

I know that many of you are hurting …

  • Many of you are confused - you are longing for a deep partnership and you just don't know how to create one.

  • Many of you are struggling with constant conflict with family and it is utterly exhausting and heartbreaking.

  • Many of you are lonely within friendships, not knowing how to break the social barriers of technology, social media and consumerism.

Materially we have more than ever but socially we were never poorer!

Save yourself years of heartache - you deserve to be loved!

So let's change this - I've literally got the golden key to creating amazing relationships! 🗝️

And I want you to be able to have it - because I see how you’re struggling and because I want you to experience the same fulfilment and love that I'm feeling every single day.

So use it!

If you're on the fence, this is the time!!

Topics I help my clients with:

  • If you’re in your 30s, 40s or 50s dating can be difficult - especially nowadays where online dating makes the process utterly exhausting and little rewarding. When working with me you have someone by your side to help you get into the best energy to authentically attract a partner that truly fits you! I will help you understand your blindspots and make the dating process fun and enjoyable!

  • Long-term relationships can be difficult, especially when life gets intense and both of you are very stressed at times - it can suck the joy, passion and intimacy out of a relationship! I help you rediscover your partner in a new light through conscious connection practces and polarity work. I’m happier than ever with my partner Matt of 7 years and I show you how you can feel the same!

  • One of the most important steps of personal growth is to create a healthy relationship with parents and extended family. Many people don’t know how to step out of their childhood role and relate to their parents as adults in a way that feels empowered and peaceful. This can lead to immense resentment on both sides as well as constant conflict and even family rifts. I help you complete the process of individuation and learn the relational skills necessary so that you can be with your family in a way that feels good.

  • One of the most important work I’ve ever done is to heal my emotions and reconnect to my inner child. The inner child is the part of us that can access immense joy and presence and therefore brings an amazing quality of experience into our life. However, the inner child also can hold a lot of suppressed pain and make our emotions spill out of control. Therefore, focusing on healing the inner child can bring immense relief from emotional triggers, out-of-control feelings and numbness.